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Learning to Love: “How are you?”

June 18, 2007

How many times have we heard “How are you?” I think the most common answer I have heard is “Fine.” Followed by “O.K.” or “Good”, and often it is followed by someone feeling obligated to ask “How are you?” in return.

Why do we say these words? Are they a greeting, a question, an icebreaker, or a meaningful attempt to engage someone in real dialog?
For someone who is lonely,, hurting, grieving, disillusioned, or in the midst of struggle those three words can bring pain, confusion, and frustration.

Ephesians 5:1-2 Be imitators of God, therefore, as dearly loved children and live a life of love, just as Christ loved us and gave himself up for us as a fragrant offering and sacrifice to God.

God calls us to “live a life of love”. Would you be willing to stop asking “How are you?” unless you really mean it and are willing to stop and listen to whatever the other person tells you in return, even if it includes, pain or frustration?

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  1. June 19, 2007 3:41 pm

    This is something that is engrained in our culture. We’re all too busy to really stop and ask how someone is doing. It’s become common place to ask, but not really care.

    I do this myself most of the time. But every now and then I force myself to stop a listen to someone. Its amazing the kind of reaction you get. Of course, sometimes you get way more than you bargained for.

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